Jul 03

The Equal Rights Blog Hop

What does being a member of the GLBT community mean to me?

So QTA asked the question “What does being a member of the GLBT community mean to you?” and I had to stop and consider all that it means to me before I could even begin to write this post, lol. For me, being part of a community where I’m accepted and equal is very important, for so many reasons. I struggled with being who I am when I was younger, but most would think being Bi would be easier… Not so in my case. The first real exposure to ‘community’ I had was, sadly, not a group really into equality, not for the “wannabes” and “fence sitters” like me. Mind you, I don’t see being Bi as being a fence sitter, I just don’t base relationships or desires on gender. I don’t have a preferred gender, simple as that.

So when I got a bit older and again tried to dip my toes into the GLBTQ community where I moved to, I was thrilled and blessed with finally finding a home where I fit. I know I’m not the only one out there to suffer the bias against bi’s (I was once told all bi’s cheat. Really? Huh? Guess I’m a bad bi then, lol.) and am now so glad to have found a GLBTQ community where I am free to be who I truly am.

For me, the biggest thing it means is being equal and having an extended family who knows me for me, and loves me just the way I am! Now if the laws could just figure out what equality truly means …

*Note: The wins against DOMA and Prop8 are wonderful, now to get the rest of the country on the equality bandwagon. Where I live marriage is still only for het couples :*(


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About the author


Tempeste O’Riley grew up in the deep south and escaped her conservative, oppressive roots as soon as she could. Tempe is an out and proud omnisexual/bi-woman whose best friend growing up had the courage to do what she couldn’t – defy the hate and come out. He has been her hero ever since.

Though new to writing M/M, she has done many things in her life but writing has always drawn her back – no matter what else life has thrown her way. She counts her friends, family, and Muse as her greatest blessings in life.


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  1. DebraG

    Sounds great! You should be free to choose or not choose who you are and what you prefer.

  2. yganoe

    I believe in freedom. The freedom to be who you want to . The freedom to speak your mind respectfully. The freedom to simply be. There is not reason that I can think of where people should be persecuted for who they are!

  3. melissa kendall

    Though not GLBTQ I am a big supporter of equal rights. I believe everyone has the right to love the way they want and whoever they want. I hope someday the government of my country pulls it’s head out of it’s ass.

  4. Sarah_Madison

    Wow! What an impressive job you’ve done on the layout and presentation of your blog post here! I am in awe (and taking notes on how to do a better job myself in the future!)! I find it interesting that even in such an inclusive group as the GLBTQ community, people can still struggle to find acceptance at times. I’m so glad you found a place to call home. 🙂

  5. Daryl Devore

    Hopefully full rights will be granted everywhere – soon.

  6. parisfanca

    though not GLBTQ I am a big supporter of equal rights. it seems a shame that there are bigger problems in the world like famine and war and ppl get all tided up in knots over who you fall in love with


  7. Stacey

    What a wonderful post! As another who is bi, I agree that it just as difficult! Glad you found a community to support you! I’m still looking for that! LOL
    staceyprice (AT) gmail.com

  8. Trix

    Great post and hop for the Fourth!


  9. lenagrey

    I wish there wasn’t a need to label anyone, especially since there’s a sliding scale to begin with. My son is having this problem now. For years he identified as a woman and now that he’s come out as Transgender male, he’s kind of in limbo. There are things he had as a woman that he doesn’t want to let go of but he’s gladly embracing things he wanted as a woman that he can now have as a man. He asks me “Why can’t I just be ME?’ I don’t have an answer except to tell him to embrace whatever feels right to him and that I love his heart not his outside.


  10. Laurie P

    Everyone has the right to choose who they love, end of story. Like I told my kids, I don’t care if it’s a purple alien, as long as they treat you the way you should be, I don’t care.
    Laurie P
    goaliemom0049 (at) gmail.com

  11. Sue

    Yes I’ve heard that – the discrimination against bi. Glad you found a home 😀

  12. lizaoconnor

    It never hit me before that a bi could get prejudice from both sides because they can live in both worlds. I think a great deal of people are born bi, only our mores force most into a hetrosexual lifestyle.

  13. Kissa Starling

    I have to leave kudos here for you because not only did I enjoy reading your post, I love your website and will definitely be back to visit again. Great hop!

  14. H.B.

    Great post. Thanks for sharing what the GLBT community means to you.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

  15. Penumbra

    I’ve heard about how Bi’s are discriminated against. Which is really silly considering others in the LBGT community who are fighting for equal rights too.


  16. Lisa G

    You don’t have a preferred gender.
    This is a great post & I’m glad you found a community who supports you. Every person deserves that


  17. Charlie Cochet

    Thanks for sharing your story, Tempeste, and I love your site btw! Looks fantastic. I hope that we can all move toward a future where there isn’t a need to label people or the need to try to fit them into neat little boxes, where we can support each other for who we are as people.

  18. Terri

    You don’t have a preferred gender, and I don’t think that makes you bad or wrong – it just makes you, YOU. Glad you found the acceptance we all need and deserve. 🙂

  19. Cathy Webb Romanczuk

    Thanks for sharing your story. I am one of those weirdo straight women (well mostly). One of my nieces is bi and I just hate how she has been treated by the people who claim to be Christians. Thankfully, my sister stood by her.
    romanczukc AT yahoo DOT com

  20. sherry1969

    Thanks for the great post. I think everyone should be treated the same way and all have the same rights.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

  21. Jbst

    Thanks for your post and being part of this Hop.
    strive4bst(At) yahoo(Dot) com

  22. Marie

    Thank you for your post and for participating in the blog hop. I certainly hope that equal rights come soon for all!

  23. chickie434

    We’re slowly but surely making our way towards full equality everywhere. Thanks so much for participating! And I like that you don’t have a preferred gender.

  24. Carolyn

    Tempeste, I’m sad that there is such a stigma with being bi, but I’m glad that you’ve found a community that accepts and celebrates you. That’s so important, and what we should all have, regardless of anything except that we are humans deserving of love.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us and for being part of the hop.

  25. Sophie Bonaste

    That was a wonderful post. Thanks for participating in this important hop!

  26. shadowluvs2read

    Hi! Thank you for sharing! Everyone should feel free to be whoever and/or whatever they want to be. Some people are to simple minded. Dont go by others standards. Have fun, expand your wings and enjoy life! Thank you!

  27. Juliana

    Thanks for sharing. There does seem to be so much bi discrimination happening, even in our own ‘inclusive’ genre.
    OceanAkers @ aol.com

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