Welcome to the Hop for Visibility, Awareness, & Equality! In years past this was called the Hop Against Homophobia, Transphobia, & Biphobia but they have a new name and a new mission statement (I love the new focus!) In fact, their mission statement is (find here):
“The mission of Hope for Visibility, Awareness, and Equality is to foster an environment of inclusion and positivity within the LGBTQI+ community. We hope to bring awareness to discrimination and celebrate our diversity not only within the community at large but within our own genres and books. We also hope to engage authors, readers, bloggers, and artist to get involved in ending discrimination while promoting visibility, awareness and equality for all sexual orientations and gender identifications.”
Once again I’m proud to be taking part in this very, very special hop to help supports the International Day against Homophobia and Transphobia on May 17th. If you’ve been part of the hop before then you know there are several people and publishers connected to this—see below to find them and check out all their great posts and see what they have on top for the HOP.
Today I’m going to touch on a topic that will probably not make me too many friends, even within community, lol… the the not gay/lesbian, not straight, not male, not female, but not IDing as Bi or as Trans or as Queer NB people. Yes, we exist 🙂 No, it’s not a phase. Yes, we have a real need for visibility, awareness, and equality. We are the Gender Fluid, Pansexuals! Now, you don’t have to be one to be there other, I just happen to be both and get so tired of the hate and lack of understanding/awareness surrounding both.
Tell someone you are Bi (too many have no clue what pansexual even is, so going with Bi for simplicity sake with those that don’t need to know as detailed info about me…) and you told you’re going through a phase, that your just haven’t come out yet and need to stop hiding, that you aren’t datable because you would just cheat (no, cheaters cheat, one has nothing to do with the other!), blah blah blah. Or you become a fetish type… “oh, so you’ll let me bring a girl to bed with us? Hot!” Um, no, that’s not what I said. Ugh!
Try explaining Pansexuality and wow, that messes with people. I often tell others that I’m ‘people-sexual’. I don’t care what bits you have or how you present, if I’m attracted to the person as an individual, not a body, then I’m attracted. You don’t even want to hear some of the nasty questions that have followed that explanation. :/
Say you’re Gender Fluid and you tend to get blank stares, or at least I do. “You’re what now?” “What’s that?” “So it’s like being part-time trans?” (Yeah, that last one always throws me. It’s not part-time anything, thanks. And how insulting to both Transgender and Gender Fluid people, ugh.) And on….
The ones that hurt the most aren’t the bigots outside community, but within. It’s the ones that say claiming to be Bi or Pan is a copout or that it’s hiding. That it’s a phase or that I’m hurting the gay rights movement by not really coming out as a real Lesbian (as opposed to what? A fake one O.o). The ones that shun Gender Fluidity. Even if I only liked women (which isn’t true), I still wouldn’t be a Lesbian as I’m Gender Fluid, lol, but oh well.
We don’t only need to fight Homophobia, Biphobia, Transphobia, etc. in the outside world, we often need to do so still within ourselves. How much of the hate and crap we were taught is still in there somewhere, tainting us? How often do we let our own lack of understanding get in the way of learning, of new friendships or relationships? Of our own happiness? How often do we hurt others and not even mean to?
Today is the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, & Biphobia. I challenge you to not only do at least one thing to help someone else, but to do a little soul searching to see if you still hold onto any of these phobias or confusions, and if you need to maybe see about educating yourself a little more about the others under the rainbow.
Now, on to something a little more fun! The giveaway part, YaY!…
- First Prize: 1 random winner will get a donation to their charity of choice (within community or that supports community) in their name in the amount of $25.
- Second Prize: 2 random winners will get an ebook from my backlist.
Comment on this post about a challenge you’ve overcome in respect to the theme Remember, make sure to add your e-mail addy or I can’t contact you to give you your prize!